DD is a sophomore. She went off to college and 2 days before classes started her long-term boyfriend broke up with her. DD did not handle it well, four days later her best friend died. Our DD is an emotional mess and is going to class but is not doing any of the work. She is not doing well emotionally and is seeing a counselor. We tried to talk her into taking a semester off when part of the tuition was refundable, but she wouldn't do it.
now she is past the refundable point and is failing all her classes. She has not turned in more than one assignment for each class, there is no way for her to catch up. She simply can't concentrate and doesn't do any of her assignments, she just goes and hangs out with her friends every night after class. What we are now dealing with is wanting what is best for her, which would be to take the pressure off of her with school. However, if she drops out we can not get any of the money that we have paid and we are on the hook for her apartment for the entire year. She will not be able to go back next year, as we do not have the money set aside to pay these expenses again.
I'm at a loss as to what to do. If I encourage her to come home, I'm ending her college career. If I encourage her to stay in school she is going to fail the semester, and still probably not graduate as we can't pay for an extra semester. Not to mention that her GPA will fall so low, she will be lucky to ever get it high enough to graduate. Whenever I bring up grades she gets really mad and says she doesn't want to talk about it.
I've never felt more helpless and have no idea what to do. Either way we are out the entire cost of a year at her apartment and are open to any suggestions. She is only working 12 hours a week so there is no way that she can earn enough to pay her own expenses.
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