I met my future roommate. Her parents are much older than my parents. She has two siblings who I think are half siblings from before her parents married. They are much older too, as in, in their 30's. My parents are closer in age to her siblings, as my parents are in their 40's. Her parents are in their 60's, the age of my grandparents. Age is not the problem.
I met my roommate and was thrilled. I thought she seemed nice and a lot like me. I noticed her mom seemed bossy though. She kept dismissing what my roommate would say and kept telling us how we would decorate our room and such. At one point, she started telling my parents and me about roommates boyfriend and it was clear she was competing with my boyfriend I guess. She said (exact words) "OUR boy is wonderful. He..." and then she went on to brag about him. My parents commented on it later. It was a bit off. But, we all thought she was nice, just awkward and probably didn't realize how it came off.
Later..
I went to meet the roommate at her house. Well, once there, I got invited to spend the night. I said sure. What I did not realize is roommate didn't want me there, it was her mother's idea. Once we got in to her room, I was ignored for the rest of the night while she texted with her boyfriend. This ended up being very awkward. The next day, when I went to go home, we got stuck where we were meeting my parents to pick me up for a bit. She did not speak to me the whole time. We were supposed to just meet in a parking lot of a store, but I thought she wanted to go in. She never said she did not, just like she never said she did not want me to spend the night. While we walked around, I would try to talk to her and she would not say anything. Sometimes, she would just say "whatever you want." And that was it.
As we were leaving and it was very awkward from the silence and all, my mom says to her "so, what are you doing tonight?" It is the 4th of July. Her mom already told us she was not working tonight, in front of her. There was no misunderstanding as she told us about her job at the time. But she answers "I am working tonight, all day and night, so I am not available, very busy." Neither of us pointed out that we knew she was lying. But once my parents and I were alone in the car, we talked about it and yes, I was not mistaken about what was said.
I was not planning to ask her to do anything, but it was clear she thought I was going to and wanted to head it off.
Now I am very worried. I have the chance to live in the language house for the spring, if I continue to take the language in the fall. I had wanted to drop the language, but now I feel like I better keep the language, for just in case, so I can have an out to the language house. Honestly, I have always wanted to live in the language house ever since I first saw this college and learned about the language house, which was a few years ago. I don't have to commit to the language house now, but, if I take the class in the fall, I am guaranteed the house for the spring.
I am so worried. I am not sure what I did wrong or if she just simply doesn't like me. Or maybe it is because her mom is pushing so hard that she is rejecting me. Her siblings never went to college.
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